Denis Waitley, an American motivational speaker and writer, said something that helped me overcome one of my greatest fears:
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
If most success starts with failure… why is it that even the thought of failure makes us cringe and feel defeated when we don’t succeed at achieving our goals?
If fear of failure is shutting you down from pursuing your life’s goals, here are 3 truths to always remember:
1. Failure can be your best teacher
When things don’t go as we expected, it’s easy to feel frustration, shame or lose motivation to keep pursuing your goal.
Yet, every time you try something that doesn’t work, it’s an opportunity to learn exactly what NOT TO DO next time and improve.
The trick here is to focus your energy on learning and improving rather than wasting your energy on self-criticism and regret.
See, when you truly embrace failure as your best teacher, you’re able to fully enjoy your abilities, gifts, and even your limitations.
You don’t have to be good at everything, you just have to know yourself well enough and understand failure as part of the process and evolve from it.
2. Failure makes you stronger
Did you know people who embrace learning from trial and error are more likely to try new things, and take more risks?
This is because they build a thicker skin that protects them from a bruised ego and disappointment. They don’t expect things to go smooth all the time, so when they fall, they’re quick to pick themselves up and keep working and improving.
They analyze their flaws and work hard without making excuses or giving up.
This is how failure makes you stronger and more resilient.
3. Failure is not the end
It’s interesting that so many of us can’t shake off the negativity from the word “failure”, even when we keep hearing repeatedly that most success stories have started from trial and error.
And the truth is, unless you’re willing to entirely give up on life if you don’t reach your goal, then failing is never fatal.
See, no matter how badly you fail, you always get another chance to try again and again - and guess what? The next time around will be easier :)
So my best piece of advice is never to take failure as a final result. Instead, see it as an opportunity to discover what it really takes to accomplish your goal.
Remember that whatever you focus on, you manifest. So don’t spend time dwelling on negativity, or playing the victim.
Instead, roll up your sleeves, and get ready to start again, but this time with a different approach and with a lot more wisdom.
Now, there may be instances where fear of failure is actually a hidden subconscious block that’s silently holding us back from our goals.
This is why I’ve created a revealing 13-minute exercise that basically exposes the REAL reason you sabotage yourself and what to do about it!
On the same page, you’ll also receive a free mini eBook PDF containing my 7 personal favorite morning success rituals for peak performance throughout the day.
Go here to take the exercise and download your free copy. And prepare to become the most productive version of yourself!
Now let me ask you: What would you attempt if you had no fear of failure?
Please share your answer in the comment box below :)
Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.