The kids are threatening to punch each other. The pot roast is burning. The phone’s ringing non-stop. The laundry’s two days overdue. Your body aches from head to toe.
And there’s nobody there to help you but yourself.
When you’re a single parent, you’re often forced to focus on surviving instead of thriving.
Unfortunately, surviving often means cutting corners, ignoring your Higher needs, and settling for the status quo instead of growing yourself.
This wreaks havoc on all areas of your life, but today I want to focus on the most common challenge America’s 13.7 million single parents struggle with: MONEY.
Earning money can be challenging enough when you’re single - but when you’re raising kids by yourself? Not only do you need more of it, but it’s also harder to find time to earn it.
Talk about a double whammy.
So what do you do if you dream of increasing your income, growing a business, or simply having a better work-life balance, while still fulfilling your responsibilities as a single parent?
After working with thousands of single parents, here are 6 priceless realizations that have consistently helped them live life more abundantly, develop a wealthy mindset, and stay positive even when times are tough:
1. “I know when to put myself first.”
Have you noticed how on flights, you’re told to put the emergency oxygen mask on yourself first, before tending to your kids?
That’s because you won’t be any good to your kids if you’re unconscious - and the same goes for your daily life too.
Remember that knowing when to put yourself first is key to relieving stress, broadening your horizons, and finding the career and financial opportunities that will serve both you and your family.
That’s why I advise my single parent clients to carve time out of their busy schedules to work on their wealth mindsets: whether that’s networking, learning a new professional skill, or even growing a business at their own pace. You’re not being selfish, you’re doing everyone a favor.
2. “I appreciate every second of my life.”
Becoming a parent thrusts you onto a roller coaster of emotions. Becoming a single parent often twists that roller coaster into an unbelievably exhausting, gravity-defying, scream-inducing ride that shakes you to your core.
But who says you can’t choose to love every moment of it anyway?
Every tantrum and confrontation you endure is an opportunity for growth and learning. Every financial challenge you conquer makes you stronger. And it all serves to make the good times even sweeter.
It may be hard to imagine now, but one day you might miss what you have today. Cherish it, and remember that an attitude of gratitude will only bring more abundant opportunities and outcomes into your present reality.
3. “I am a shining beacon of light.”
Single parents are an inspiration: a symbol of mankind’s incredible capacity for love, strength and resilience. And you may be surprised if you found out just how many people you inspire and empower, just by doing what you do.
Of course I’m not telling you this so you can feel the pressure of wanting to be a perfect role model - but rather so you can find confidence and personal power in knowing that the path you’re on takes grit.
The same kind of grit found in entrepreneurs, professionals, and other successful people with wealthy mindsets. If you want to learn how to live more abundantly, you must first believe in yourself and have pride over your accomplishments and being you.
4. “I’m not perfect, and that’s okay.”
Speaking of perfection, who’s perfect anyway? Stop beating yourself up too much whenever you miss sending one of the kids to soccer practice. Or when you’re too tired to cook dinner, and settle for sandwiches instead.
The quest for perfection is dangerous. It stops a lot of otherwise capable single parents from improving themselves, pursuing a business idea, or aiming for that raise or promotion at work - just because they feel they’re not good enough, or because they don’t have all their bases covered.
If you begin to question how to stay positive when times are tough, simply embrace your imperfections, forgive yourself with grace, and move forward with confidence.
5. “I am far from alone.”
From family members and friends, to trustworthy babysitters, to other single parents and potential allies at yoga class, the gym or even the neighborhood coffee shop - are you opening yourself to all the people who could help take some of the heat off raising your kids?
In the past, before the traditional family unit was the norm, children were raised not only by their parents, but by the tribe they belonged to.
So why not expand your tribe, and get help with taking care of your kids on some days, which could even teach them unique skills and perspectives from others? The extra time and mind space you gain can do wonders for your career and finances. And in addition, you will be turning your single parenting challenges into opportunities for growth; for both yourself and your kids.
6. “I am in total control, even when I’m not.”
Embrace the chaos! You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can control your reactions and even your emotions.
Whether it’s a crisis at work, or something your kid did at school - when you train yourself to stay positive when times are tough, you’re also training your brain to manifest the best possible solutions and outcomes.
Mind shifts like these will help you reclaim the time, energy and head space you need to start earning and achieving more.
Remember, you’re not here to compete with others, or even the old you: you’re here to create the ideal outcomes in your current circumstances - and that’s something you can always do, no matter how many kids you’re raising, or how busy you get.
Oh, and since I know you’re busy…
What do you say we put your wealth and success on autopilot?
I’m about to host a brand new broadcast of my acclaimed online masterclass: Put Your Success on Autopilot - and I’d love to have you join me on it, on the house of course :-)
On this free session, we’ll take a deep dive into your subconscious mind, and explore the patterns, programming, beliefs and habits that quietly control your life.
You’ll get a fascinating insight into what really makes you the person you are.
More importantly, you’ll also discover an incredibly easy and scientifically proven way to reprogram your subconscious mind, so you can be a better parent, earn more money, get more done, increase your energy and youthfulness, and love yourself and others unconditionally.
Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or you just want to see what else life has to offer - join me on this session, and let’s put your success on autopilot.
Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.