Have you ever struggled to find a balance between self-love and self-improvement? As a self-growth junkie myself, I’ve definitely experienced the tension between these two ideals - wanting to be the best version of myself, while still wanting to feel happy and content in the moment. Can you relate? If yes - make sure to read on to discover how to create synergy between these two things, to live a happier, more fulfilled life!
Self-love or self-improvement?
In the quest for self-discovery and growth, it’s easy to focus the majority of our time and energy on what we want to change or improve within ourselves. While it’s great to strive towards new goals and aspirations, it’s equally as important to hold space for self-love and acceptance. Discovering how to make peace between these ideals first requires a knowledge of both, so let’s jump right in!
What is self-love?
Self-love is defined as:
An appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue; proper regard for and attention to one’s own happiness or well-being.
What is self-improvement?
Self-improvement is defined as:
The act or process of improving oneself by one’s own actions.
So do we really need self-love and self-improvement to live a full and rewarding life?
I believe the answer is yes, but with moderation.
You see - having the confidence to openly and willingly take action towards self-improvement can be an amazing turning point in your life. Whether it’s a spiritual, emotional, physical, or social change you’re seeking - this personal journey can be incredibly rewarding and lead to a more abundant life. However, if you aren’t able to embrace and accept yourself in the here and now - you may struggle to find fulfillment in everyday life.
So, how can Self-Love and Self-Improvement Be Used Together?
These two thought processes, although they may seem opposing at first - actually work incredibly well together, almost in synergy. The more you seek to improve your overall well-being, the more love you are giving to yourself. And the more self-love or self-acceptance you radiate, the more likely you are to grow and develop into the best version of yourself.
But again, sometimes, we may start to focus too heavily on one over the other. For example, putting too much pressure on working towards self-improvement may cause you to put your happiness on the back burner.
Writer, Pamela Dussault Runtagh, describes this as the “transformation treadmill”, where you are constantly working towards becoming better and more value is put upon your future self. In turn, this leaves little leftover for your present self, ultimately making you believe that you haven’t earned the right to love yourself yet, as the way you are.
And conversely, getting too comfortable with the way things are can sometimes lead to stagnation and even feeling lazy when you know that deep down, you truly want to do better and improve your overall well-being.
So how do we find the balance?
How do we enjoy life, feel happy and content with where we’re at right now, while still continuing to strive for growth and change?
How do we put our best foot forward in both lanes?
The ability to become the best version of YOU takes mastering the balance of both self-love and self-improvement. The goal is to accept reality and feel grateful for where you are, while still wanting to be better.
When you allow yourself to adopt the habits of both self-love and self-improvement, you are essentially forming a circle of accountability that helps to shape you into the best version of yourself.
The balance lies in loving you for who you are without putting on the negative pressure to become the so-called “perfect” version of yourself. And then, using your imperfections as a tool to grow, love, and accept yourself even more.
The thing we also have to remember is that the road to self-discovery is an ongoing journey, so it’s always going to be a work in progress. And in the parameters of what we teach at Mind Movies, you can take a deeper look at the tools and resources you already know how to use.
Practices like meditation, reciting affirmations, writing in your gratitude journal, grounding in nature, breath work, etc. are all incredible ways to welcome a healthy balance and clarity into your life. Being completely mindful throughout the process of self-discovery is how you can better channel the balance you need to thrive.
So one last time, do YOU need self-love and self-improvement to live a full and rewarding life?
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Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.