When we think of being mindful, it's often something we think that works to improve our emotional wellbeing on a personal level – like a practice or ritual that can help to calm us down or bring us back to the present.
Deepak Chopra refers to mindfulness as a "conscious, unattached, nonjudgemental awareness" that can bring "clarity to the mind and more insight and intuition and creativity" into one's life.
In other words, it's the ability to take a step back and observe our thoughts and feelings without reacting to them right away. We can see them for what they are – which are just thoughts and feelings – and then make a conscious decision about how we want to respond.
Mindfulness can also significantly improve our relationships – both within ourselves and with others. And when you consider our romantic relationships, in particular, mindfulness can be a real game-changer.
You see, so often in our romantic relationships, we can get caught up in the past or worried about the future. We might dwell on hurt feelings or resentments that have built up over time. Or we might find ourselves anxious about where things are going and what might happen down the road.
All of this can leave us feeling distracted and frustrated, taking us away from the present moment – which is really where our relationships live and breathe. It's easy to forget that the person we're with is right here, right now, in front of us – not stuck in some memory or worry from the past or future.
So when we're more mindful in our relationships, we're better able to embody things like:
This means being connected with our partner on a deeper level where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued, whether that means being fully engaged in conversation, enjoying a shared activity, or simply being together in silence.
Accepting our partner – and the relationship – as it is in the present moment without judgment, where both parties are actively working to understand and accept each other, especially as individuals evolve.
Being able to communicate effectively and openly with our partner about what we're thinking and feeling – of course, without judgment or blame.
Opening up to our partner and sharing our true selves – even the parts that we might be afraid to show, where you can use honesty as a tool to grow closer together instead of pulling apart.
Treating our partner with kindness, understanding, and empathy – even when things are tough. While this can sometimes be a challenge, it can be a testament to the strength of the relationship.
Overall, feeling more satisfied with the relationship and feeling closer to our partner in a way that cultivates peace and happiness.
These are all important aspects of any relationship – but they can be particularly helpful in romantic relationships where things can sometimes feel more complicated or intense. So how can we be more mindful in our relationships? Here are a few tips:
Make time for regular check-ins every day. Even if it's just a few minutes, take some time each day to connect with your partner. This could mean having a conversation, going for a walk together, or simply being present with each other. Meditation is a wonderful practice you can do together.
Listen more than you speak. Active listening is key in any relationship – but it's especially important in a romantic relationship. Make an effort to hear what your partner is saying and to understand their perspective.
Be curious about your partner. Ask them questions and learn more about their thoughts, feelings, dreams, and goals. Show them that you're interested in who they are as a person.
Avoid making assumptions. It's easy to jump to conclusions – especially in relationships. But assuming that you know what your partner is thinking or feeling can lead to problems. Instead, ask them directly and try to see things from their perspective.
And of course, be present in the moment. One of the best things you can do for your relationship is to be fully present when you're with your partner. That means putting away your phone, turning off the TV, and focusing on them. It might sound simple, but it can make a big difference.
When we're more mindful in our relationships, we're able to create a deeper connection with our partners. We're better able to listen to them and understand their needs. We can let go of resentments and focus on the present moment. We can let go of judgment and instead accept them and the relationship as it is. We can be more vulnerable with them and share our true selves. And as a result, we can feel more satisfied with the relationship overall. And that sounds pretty amazing, right?
So if you're looking to improve your relationship, why not give mindfulness a try? It just might be the answer you've been looking for. And while you're here, I'd also like to share with you a very special visualization gift that will help you to open up your heart and attract more of what you desire into your life – it’s the perfect companion to your mindfulness practice – and a tool I use myself! So go here now to download it (totally FREE) and watch as your life begins to transform in ways you never thought possible. Enjoy!