Who are you? No really, who are you? What do you like? What makes you happy? What makes you tick? What motivates you to jump out of bed every morning?
If you don't know the answer to some of these questions, then it's time to do some soul searching. It's time to discover who YOU are, no matter where you’re at in life.
You see, it's not always easy to get to know ourselves. We often get so caught up in day-to-day life that we forget to take the time to step back and reflect on who we are and what we want out of life.
We become so focused on working towards goals that we lose sight of WHY we're doing them in the first place. And in turn, we can get caught up in the comparison game, comparing ourselves to others and thinking that we have to be like them to be happy and successful.
But the reality is, you don't have to compare yourself to anyone else. In fact, your self-worth isn't based on anyone else at all! You are unique and special, just the way you are. And there is no one else in the world exactly like you. So why not take the time to get to know yourself better?
And get to know what you want...
What your strengths are...
And who YOU are, at your core.
Well, in working to uncover this kind of information, you can learn quite a bit from your habits and routines. By taking a closer look at the way you live your life on a day-to-day basis, you can start to get a better understanding of what makes you happy and what doesn't.
And once you have a general understanding of what your daily life looks like, you can then work to incorporate new practices that will help you get to know yourself even better and live life to the fullest.
So, how can you start uncovering who you are and what you want out of life? Well, to make new habits stick, you've got to give yourself some time. So prepare to set aside at least six months to even a year working on some new routines and tracking your progress. And here are some ideas to get you started on an action plan toward your journey of self-discovery:
1. Keep a journal. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a great way to get to know yourself better. It can help you to figure out what you're thinking and feeling, and it can also be a great outlet for any emotions you might be bottling up.
Even consider dedicating a journal that you go to over the next several months where you are solely focusing on what you are learning about yourself. And each day, the prompt can be something along the lines of: "Today I learned..." and use that time to reflect on what you learned about yourself that day. And after journaling consistently for several weeks, months, etc., at a time, look back on what you wrote and see what patterns emerge.
2. Spend time alone. This one can be tough for some people, but it's important to spend some time alone now and then. This will allow you to focus on yourself and your thoughts and feelings.
Set aside some "me" time each week to do something that you enjoy. This could be anything from reading, taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, or visiting a museum. Get familiar with that quiet time that you have with yourself and your thoughts, essentially romanticizing it so that you can begin to understand what brings YOU joy.
3. Do something new. Trying new things can help you to learn more about yourself. It can also be a great way to step outside of your comfort zone and challenge yourself in new ways. Experiment with different hobbies and activities or skills, or topics you want to learn more about. The key here is to set aside ample time each day to focus on these things where you can expand your mind and stretch your realm of possibilities.
So for you, maybe that looks like carving out at least 30 minutes per day, 3-5 times a week, to do or learn something new. Maybe it's listening to podcasts on investing or hacks for better health. Maybe it's reading on tips to scale a business or brushing up on your history knowledge. The options are endless, but the goal is that by trying new things, you learn more about what you like and don't like- which is information that can be very telling about who you are.
4. Talk to someone you trust. Talking to someone who knows you well can be a great way to get some insight into who you are. They might be able to offer some perspectives that you hadn't considered before. So indulge in regular conversations with someone you trust about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. These could be friends, family members, mentors, or therapists. But the key is to open up and share what's going on with you so that you can gain some clarity and understanding. Sometimes those on the outside looking in can provide valuable insights that we're unable to see at first.
5. Be honest with yourself. It's important to be honest with yourself when you're trying to get to know yourself better. Don't try to be someone you're not – the comparison trap is often where we can get ourselves stuck. Learn to be true to who you are, and accept yourself for who you are, especially during this process, where you're going to be learning quite a bit about yourself.
So chances are, the way you feel and observe the world around you is going to feel new. But remember that you are on your journey and that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to do things. Just be honest with what you're thinking and feeling, and trust that you will figure it out as you go.
6. Commit to both a morning and night routine. This is a time where you commit to focusing on your health and wellness, both physically and mentally. The time we give ourselves first thing in the morning and just before going to bed can and should be sacred. So give yourself at least 30 minutes to an hour of quality time where you're working on improving yourself.
This could look like journaling, working out, meditating, or anything else that makes you feel good. This is also an opportunity to expand your mind on a topic you want to master or to work on a skill you've been wanting to learn. When you commit to infusing this time into both your mornings and evenings, be sure to check back on your progress to see just how much you've grown and what "new" habits are now automatic.
7. Get rid of any negative self-talk. We all have that little voice in our head that tells us we're not good enough or that we can't do something. But it's important to silence that voice and instead focus on positive self-talk. And if you're having trouble silencing that voice – which can often show up as limiting beliefs that prevent us from growing – actively commit to correcting yourself and filling your head with mantras and things you're proud of about yourself instead.
8. Give yourself some grace. We all make mistakes. And that's okay. It's important to give yourself some grace when you make a mistake or fail at something. It doesn't mean that you're a bad person. It just means that you're human. And learning to give yourself that grace and self-compassion, you're able to learn more and more about yourself without judgment. Getting to know yourself can be a lifelong journey. And again, there is no "right" or "wrong" way to do it.
Loving yourself is perhaps the most important thing of all when it comes to uncovering who you are. You have to be able to accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all. Only then can you truly start to live your best life. This is the kind of wisdom that can only come from within. So be patient with yourself, and trust that the answers will come in time.
At the end of the day, trying to get to know yourself better can be a challenging but rewarding process. But this road to success can help you to feel more confident and secure in who you are. And it can also help you to better understand yourself and what you want out of life. And just think, after a year of building that internal compass, who will you be then? More confident? Have a better sense of self and what you want? Able to live life on your terms? Well, between you and me, it's ALL possible. And don't forget to enjoy the journey. After all, it's yours!
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