Let’s be honest, no one likes feeling lonely, especially during the holiday season. And on top of that, I’m sure many of us are still feeling the effects of this unprecedented year, which means that some of us are spending the holidays completely alone for the first time in a while. Coping with feelings of loneliness at a time when self-isolation is encouraged can definitely take a toll on our mental wellbeing and ability to feel connected to the people we love.
So first and foremost, we’ve got to remember to express gratitude for all that we have. The holidays are always a wonderful reminder to acknowledge what we’re most thankful for, and in times when you may be feeling lonelier than ever, being grateful (even for isolation) is the best place to start.
Expressing gratitude not only helps to allow your energetic frequency to radiate, but it also allows you to get grounded and connect from within. In a recent interview, I did with conscious communication coach, Natalie Susi, we discuss how sometimes it’s our personal stories that can hold us back from what we truly want out of life. Instead of lingering in feelings of lack, it’s important to get underneath the surface of loneliness and develop a new story. Breaking up with your limiting beliefs and deep-seated programming all starts with gratitude, so start there first!
When you can appreciate and honor all that exists in your life, whether you’re single, in a committed partnership, surrounded by family and friends, or navigating life solo, there’s always so much to be grateful for. Filling your mind with feelings of gratitude and worthiness only welcome more of that, so allow yourself to see all the beauty that already surrounds you in this life.
And because there’s always something to be grateful for, it’s important to acknowledge the little things too. It may be unavoidable to wander down the path of wondering when you’re going to see loved ones again or attract a desired relationship, but focusing on the little things in life can help to keep us feeling positive. Things like the sunrise or having a warm cup of tea in the morning, or stumbling upon a great book – these are the small yet sacred moments we must continue to cherish every day to keep our spirits elevated.
That’s why it’s important to be mindful, especially during these challenging times. Giving yourself permission to be present and in the moment can help keep you feeling calm instead of building up negative chatter in your mind. So the next time you’re taking a walk or going to the store, pay attention to friendly smiles from passersby, admire the beauty you see in nature, or hold the door for the person behind you. These are the mindful moments that truly raise the collective consciousness, making the world a little less lonely for everyone.
Something as simple as sending a funny text to a friend or coworker can have the power to completely raise someone’s spirits (and yours too!). Imagine if everyone did this today? Random acts of kindness allow us to feel connected to one another, knowing that even if just for a moment, someone else is thinking of them. And you might be surprised by how much others are willing to return the favor.
That’s why giving to others is another incredible remedy for lonely holiday blues. Did you know that helping others in need or those less fortunate is actually good for you? It’s true! By giving back or to volunteer your time not only helps you gain a better sense of community, find purpose, and see new perspectives, but it can actually reduce stress and increase lifespan. Putting your energy toward something bigger than you is exactly how to facilitate connectedness.
And at a time when we’re probably craving connectedness more than ever, understand that you are not alone. Even if it’s an uneasy feeling to grapple with, there are many people out there who want to feel connected too. We are navigating unprecedented times, so there are a lot of shifts and pivots happening all over the globe for everyone. So if you are unable to visit with family this year or you’re on the heels of a bad breakup, realize we’re all going to be coping with some form of newness at any point in time.
That’s why now is the perfect time of year to establish new traditions – your traditions. This is exactly the kind of self-love you can use to banish those feelings of loneliness. Maybe it’s hosting a ‘Friendsgiving’ Zoom event and commit to having one every year. Or sending holiday cards to family and neighbors. Or setting up a holiday book club with friends from your online social circle. Whatever it is, it’s okay to embrace the new and welcome change.
Remember, there is so much to be grateful for. And although we may be experiencing new feelings, they don’t have to be our feelings forever. And speaking of new feelings, I really want to share with you this eye-opening mind exercise that can reveal the secret inner blocks that keep us feeling stressed, anxious, and lonely. Plus, you’ll receive a FREE gift featuring my morning rituals for success that you can start incorporating into your life straight away. Get your instant access today and watch as you begin to rewrite your personal story, and welcome your most authentic self!
Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.