When you experience a crisis or come to a crossroads in your life… do you ever wish you had an advisor that could help you make the best decisions to get through it in the most painless way possible?
My Ultimate Success Masterclass students have the ability to ask for my advice whenever they need some guidance.
And recently, I noticed that many of my students were struggling in the same areas of life.
In today’s blog post, I’d like to take the opportunity to share with you 5 questions from my students and my 5 answers, to refer to now or whenever you may need them in the future :)
Q1. Dealing With Negative Family Members.
Hi Natalie, for many years I have struggled with my own inner self and insecurities and I have also struggled with wanting to please others and always worrying if I’m letting them down.
My question is, how does one separate themselves from family members who are negative and suffocating?
I find myself lying to them about what I’m doing because I do not want them to bring me down and I want to avoid conflict.
A1. Yes, family is always a tricky situation, as there is a life-long set of behaviors and expectations on how we are supposed to be with our families - we need to break the pattern to evolve above this.
Nothing has meaning other than the meaning we give it. Your family's behavior can only affect you as much as you let it. What I find helps in this situation is to remember that we are all here learning our own lessons at our own pace and in our own time, so it's not really for us to judge where other people are at in their journey.
Remember that your family members are operating from their past programs and experiences and they can't help their behavior... they don't know any different. When you change your perception of their intention, it helps to change your response too!
Q2. Is My Goal Too Big To Achieve?
Hi Natalie, I’d like to make $10,000 per month, but right now any amount seems too large for me to comprehend, as I have been slowly coming out of a financial challenge and for the same reason I can't put myself in the emotional state of abundance when I feel in survival mode.
My question, is should I set a small goal so it is easiest to convince myself that I will actually get the $10K per month?
A2. First of all, I believe there is no such thing as a goal too big… why?
Because if you don't set ‘the big goal’ you will never achieve it, BUT if you do set the big goal, there's every chance you will.
Now the big question is, if it doesn’t happen right way… can you live with that? It may take you a year or two, but then again it could also happen within 5 weeks too, you just never know. I say go big, and even if you get half way there, you are still in a better position than you are now. You've got this!
Q3. How to get unstuck!
Hi Natalie, I’ve been feeling stuck and haven’t moved forward for weeks now. I don't know where my focus should be anymore, as I have lots of ideas but yet I don't have the inspiration of moving forward in any of them right now.... I am not sure on which I should focus so that I can feel motivated again... Can you help?
A3. When I'm stuck like this, I know it's time to get quiet and ask for guidance. You can either meditate, just sit quietly, or even walk in nature. Be quiet, then ask the question 'What direction should I move in next?' THEN, very importantly, be quiet long enough to hear the answer. When we are hectic and busy, our minds are too preoccupied to help us with the answers we need.
Now when I do this, I always get an answer. I don't know whether the answer comes from my intuition, my subconscious, from God or from the Collective Consciousness… all I know is that when YOU ask the question, you will always get an answer.
Q4. How to keep a positive attitude through adversity.
Hi Natalie, my brother is critically ill. What tips do you have to stay in your “happy place” in this situation? And also, what words of encouragement do you suggest I give him?
A4. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother’s illness. The best way I know of to get into your 'Happy Place' is through gratitude. I would spend some time thinking of all the amazing things about him and why you are so grateful he IS your brother!
When you are with him, share some of the thoughts or memories you come up with and play a little 'grateful' game with him, so you're both coming up with things.
The more you can focus his thoughts on healing and his future, the less power he’ll be giving to his illness.
Q5. Planning the future while living in the present moment.
Dear Natalie, how can I enjoy the present moment while setting my intentions and planning for the future? Isn’t this contradicting?
A5. The answer is… no! It's all about the journey!! Each day on your way to your goal, you are learning more about yourself, expanding yourself, experiencing new things and are in gratitude that what you're learning is a life skill that will have you living a life beyond your wildest dreams!!
So take a loooong, deeeeep breath and savor every beautiful, amazing, delicious moment along the way.
As you can see, we all face the same problems in life, the difference is how we react to them.
And no matter what your situation is, whether you’re experiencing financial problems, a break-up, health issues, or simply feeling bored or stuck, you CAN turn things around and bounce back higher than ever!
And speaking of bouncing back, there’s a really quick and powerful way to do this: It’s my friend Sonia Ricotti’s online training, where she reveals her successful 3 step formula for turning adversity into opportunity and greatness!
Her warm personality and expertise truly make her a one-of-a-kind personal development teacher and I’m sure you’ll enjoy every minute of her training.
If you’re ready to move out of your comfort zone and experience your life without worry, regret, anger or pain, then let Sonia help you and register for her free upcoming online training ASAP!
And, if you have any other tips or advice that could guide others on their journey to success, please share them with our community in the box below :)
Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.