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Episode # 321   Regina Cates

About The Episode:

Today on The Inspiration Show, Natalie Ledwell speaks with author of ?Lead With Your Heart?, Regina Cates. Regina joins Natalie to discuss the inspiration behind her latest book, which offers a combination of wise advice, compelling anecdotes and practical strategies for living a life that is authentic, fulfilling and healing. During the show, Regina opens up about the struggles she had to face by being born gay in a conservative society and hitting an emotional bottom when she found herself sitting alone on her forty-third birthday. She realized after that moment that she had been trying to live up to other people?s expectations, and as a result, she had given away her most important gift, her power of choice. Regina also shares the importance of embracing our uniqueness and love for ourselves. Plus, she reveals how to find true happiness and joy within.

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Episode # 321 Regina Cates

Natalie: Hello, Everyone! My name is Natalie Ledwell and this is the Inspiration Show. Today,

we have a very special show because today we’re going to be talking about love and it may not

be in the way that you think. So, can you please join me in welcoming my guest, Regina Cates.

How are you Regina?

Regina: I’m wonderful Natalie. Thank you for having me.

N: It’s actually a pleasure having you here and I’m really interested into getting into today’s

show. But before we do that why don’t we talk about your background or your story and how you

got into doing this work?

R: Sure, be happy to share. Natalie, I grew up in the southern part of the united states in the

fundamentals of the Christian church. From the time that I walked in about 3 years old, I knew

that I was different. I was gay. I was born gay. And boy that set up a whole lot of stuff for

my life and so I did not grow up knowing how to love myself. And I spent the next many, many

years trying to really figure out what love means, to say I love you and so that’s what the

book that I’ve written, lead with your heart, is all about. It’s the journey of how to love

yourself. The actions that I take everyday that make sure that I’m loving myself, so that I can

love others well.

N: Right. I thought that you might have had an accent there (laughs).

R: Like you, no have none (laughs).

N: (laughs) (mumbles) It is an interesting life story that you’ve had because I can imagine how

hard it would be to have everything in your environment telling you one thing but inside you’re

feeling something else. So how do you handle that or how do you cope with that?

R: Well, you know, not well at times, Natalie, and I think anyone of us whether we’re gay or

whether we’re dealing with any other issues because Natalie we all have our own stuff and I

think that anyone of us that’s dealing with challenges of being different, which by the way

we’re all different and we need to embrace that difference that we have and we share because

that’s something that we all have in common is that we’re all totally different. I think

whenever we reach those points where were we’re I guess pushing against the boundaries of what

society says we should be, then we’re going to suffer and I think our job is regardless of

whatever we have experienced in life is to find ways where we come back to ourselves, to remain

align with that part of us that says, hey Regina being gay is like biological, don’t worry

about it. These people don’t know what they’re talking about. Love yourself. Learn to love

yourself. So whatever issue that we’re dealing with, it’s all about coming back to that heart,

that soul that we are.

N: Yeah. And was there a particular event that helped you realize that you needed to turn to

love to be able to live a fulfilling life?

R: Oh Natalie, there’s been so many, I don’t think we have time to talk about all of them but

here’s what I will share because I believe, for me, and I don’t think I’m unique. I believe

everyone on the planet is born with certain understanding. I think it’s more of a clear

connection to our souls. Even as a young child of 3 or 4 when I was encountering these weird

thoughts, I’m horribly different from everybody else, there was something inside that said,

Regina, it’s okay. It’s really okay. So my life journey and I think each of us, our journey is

to remain connected to that part of ourselves. So, I really was sort of an abstinent child and

I think a lot of us really need to be, yes, I know. No, you’re not going to put this box on me.

And I think what we need to do now for our children and those generations that come is to give

them permission to be themselves. So that means that we need to learn how to accept other

people for who they are and just guide them in developing the values that will allow them to

lead with their heart and that’s basically leading with love, Natalie.

N: Yeah. I mean that’s the thing, who are we to judge anybody and people are people and how

boring a place, the world be if we were all the same. So what does it mean to lead with love?

How do you live, leading with love?

R: Well, I think the first thing Natalie is each of us has to come to the understanding of what

love is and I spent a long time thinking about it and I documented it in the book because it’s

actually, lead with your heart, this book that I’ve written, it took 10 years and it was very

specific and very careful because I really wanted to document the steps that I think that we

take every day to love ourselves so that we can love others. What I’ve come to find out is that

love is affection. Love is caring but how do we express that? How do I know I love you? How do

you know you love me? Seriously, we don’t think these kinds of things. We become attracted to

someone and all of a sudden there you have it and we don’t get to know them well enough and

then we’re in a relationship but then we start getting nasty and all of these things that we

see around us. So what I have come to understand is that love is expressed and received through

positive behavior. I’m accepting. I’m understanding. I’m patient with you (laughs). I’m caring.

I’m supportive. I listen as I want to be heard. All of these actions that we take, they

actually give meaning to I love you.

N: Yeah, exactly. And it’s interesting what you’re saying is it’s not just lip service. It’s

not just saying it but actually showing it through our actions. And you’re not talking about

showing this with your significant other, you’re talking about showing this with other people

as well, right?

R: Oh absolutely, everybody, because I’ll tell you what Natalie, when we’re happiest is when

we’re being loved. And by that people say, what in the world does that actually mean? What does

it mean to be loved? It means to be patient. It means to be kind. It means to be compassionate,

empathetic. All of these wonderful values of our heart or our soul, that’s what it means. So

yeah, we’re patient with the checker at Walmart who’s learning for the first time how to be a

checker. We’re patient with the person who’s at Peace Coffee, here in LA that’s learning to

make the coffee for the first, second or third time. And here is the key, Natalie, the exciting

part is that we have to be patient, loving, understanding with ourselves first before we can

actually give that to someone else. Therefore, it is not selfish to love yourself first. It is

responsible because until I became patient and accepting and forgiving, and all the other

behaviors of love with me, I could pretend but I wasn’t really giving it to you.

N: Exactly and the thing is when you don’t love yourself, that is the energy that you are

emitting. So you are making it difficult for anyone else to be able to reflect back the love

that you want because what you are emanating out is such a mismatch to what it is that you want

to have back. Right?

R: Perfect. Absolutely very well explained, yeah. And that’s again, I’m going to bring it back

to the book, lead with your heart, because that’s the reason I devoted so much of my time to

it. It’s the handbook that I didn’t have. I sat down and said, listen, if I had a handbook that

I would want to share with the young people, the old people, anybody of how you love yourself,

what are the steps that you do because every day I’m in contact with people all over the world,

how do you love yourself? How do I do that? I love everybody else, well you really don’t

because you don’t know what love is.

N: Exactly.

R: Important.

N: Yeah, they’re very important. I know a couple of times you referred to connecting to our

soul, I did a recent interview with Panache Desai, how I was, I’m calling this since I’ve

separated from my husband, I’m calling this Nat 2.0, (overlaps with guest). No, you’re actually

going back and remembering yourself, reconnecting to spirit. So, what is a way our listeners

can have that connection or create that connection?

R: Well, that, you know what Natalie, I’m going to break it down and going to make it easy and

it might not be exactly what people suspect because some people expect it’s something weird we

experience, I want to tell you something, another reason I spent so much time creating this

business and writing this book and helping people is because it looks a lot simpler than we

think. And that is that, we behave in certain ways that are loving and we know we’re spiritual

beings on a great human adventure. Whenever we are grateful, truly grateful, boy our soul fills

with something that is just indescribable. There is a joy there that we cannot receive through

any other way. When we’re kind, when we’re compassionate, so if you want to know what it looks

like to actually be a spiritual being on a great human adventure, then it is connecting with

your behavior and the legacy that you live with the world. That’s pretty much as sexy as it

gets, you know, but it’s so gratifying.

N: Okay, absolutely. So tell me some stories or some success stories of people that you’ve

worked with or that have read your book and had been able to contact you through that.

R: Oh my goodness, well I’ve been a presence on Facebook for many years now. We’ve got quite

enough number of folks that join us there from all over the world and I think that one of the

most important things is that every day we are able to exchange ideas and how to lead with your

heart and how to do these sort of things, from that came a very large practice of working with

people in workshops and one on one, and I’m going to tell you what happens Natalie, I think is

that when we share our story with others, we’re totally honest, we’re just transparent, then

they’re able to take that information and no longer feel that they are isolated. No longer feel

that they’re totally alone in this experience and from that alone they are able to say, hey, if

she can do it, I can too. Now, privately I work with people that have experienced unbelievable

kinds of abuse and they have now forgiven their abusers and are now living lives of great love

and compassion. It’s inspirational to see, Natalie. Unbelievable. The spirit that we have in us

to heal.

N: Yeah. Exactly. I agree, which is part of the reason why the Inspiration show exists.

R: Yes, yes.

N: (overlaps with guest) gurus and all sorts like yourself but you know, regular people that

have had experiences that is so inspiring that you have to share this story with the world. And

especially after me going through my separation from my husband, it was like, we need to talk

about this stuff because I have found out that there are a lot of women that, we were going

through exactly the same challenges that I was going through at that time but I didn’t really

felt like I had anyone to share with. So creating a forum, an ability for us to share our

experiences doesn’t just help us but it helps to bring our souls together. So where can we send

people if they want to find out about your book? If they want to find out what you, if they

want to work with you?

R: Sure. Well the official website is and on Facebook come over and join

us it is romancing your soul and the book is available, leading with your heart, creating a

life of love, compassion and purpose is available in Canada. It’s available in the united

kingdom and on and in every bookstore in the united states. So just walk in and grab

yourself a copy.

N: Excellent. So how long have you been doing this book, Regina?

R: Oh my goodness, Natalie, officially about 11 years but all of my life there’s something that

has just been given and I’m very grateful to be able to I guess share my heart that other

people relate to it. Yeah, so, I’m blessed.

N: Well, we’re blessed to have you on the show, so thank you so much for joining me Regina,

it’s been an absolute pleasure.

R: Oh it’s been an honor for me, Natalie. Thank you so much.

N: Awesome. Now guys I encourage you to share this video, the information in it, you can do

that by clicking the Facebook and the Twitter share buttons on this page. Make sure that you

click on the banner on the side so you can go straight to Regina’s site. And make sure that you

grab that book of hers, so that you can start to live a life where you’re leading with love.

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send it to you for free. So until next time, remember live large, choose courageously and love

without limits. We’ll see you soon.
Regina Cates



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