Episode # 313 Nathalie Chantal
Natalie: Hello, Everyone! My name is Natalie Ledwell and this is the Inspiration Show. Today, my special guest has an exceptionally inspiring story and actually the perfect guest for the Inspiration Show because her personal experience, she’s now able to turn it around and share it to other people to better their lives and to look at the things in their life and how to turn their life around as well. So, let me introduce you my special guest today, Nathalie Dianda. How are you Natalie?
ND: (laughs) Hi Natalie. I’m fine, thanks. How are you?
NL: I am fantastic, fantastic today. So, why don’t we start first with your story because your story yourself is so inspiring and I’m actually so glad that you’re using this to be able to inspire people to live their lives better as well.
ND: Yeah, yeah. You know, actually for me things started to go wrong to be honest when I was quite young. Do you know what a weightholic is, Natalie?
NL: What, what is it?
ND: A weightholic. Do you know what that is?
ND: Now, a weightholic is a person who is addicted to weighing themselves and who is actually dependent on the number of their scales and assume that as these number goes up, weightholics starts to freak out. And that was me when I was 8 years old. So, when I was still a little girl, I already had a problem with my weight. And when I was a teenager, this problem translated to an eating disorder. I had bulimia when I was a teenager and as a young woman as well and I never told anyone about that. So, I was having all these problems and I was hiding them from everyone because I didn’t know how to help myself. I tried on helping other people with their problems and this was when I was in my twenties. This turned into co-dependency. So, when I was 21, I had that kind of a breakdown in front of my general practitioner and he sent me to a therapist right away, which is, I was a depressed, bulimic and co-dependent (2:21) and I really needed help at that time.
NL: Right. So, it must be, such a young age to have such an awareness that things aren’t going great for you. It must be so harrowing. So you find yourself at a therapist and how did that therapy go for you?
ND: In the beginning, it was actually great. I was finally able to talk about my problems and get a lot of things out of my chest but I don’t know, after a couple of months, I was starting to feel that things were going downhill again because my therapist, he actually, he didn’t get me and the approach he was using was counter-productive. He was always trying to dig into my past and I can’t tell you, if I haven’t already been depressed, I would have become depressed because it was just so frustrating and so I was stuck in my past and I had no outlook and what happened then, and this was the turning point for me, was that I decided to drop out of therapy and I decided to stop taking drugs because this is what they do for a while, they just give me drugs because I didn’t get any better. And this did not sit right with me, so I stopped taking the drugs, I quit therapy and I joined a yoga class instead and this was the very first thing that really helped me to get better.
NL: You know, I’ve listened to a lot of my books on (4:03) and at the moment, I am listening to a book by Wayne (4:07) called, I can see clearly now. It’s actually like an autobiography of him and it’s like he is going back to his life. He also said the same thing, he said that when he started doing yoga, he never turned back. It was like, I call yoga my spiritual way of exercising. You have all the exercise benefits but you also have this spiritual element to it as well. It’s interesting how you’re having all these realizations through your life. You’re looking to get help, what do you think that kept you realizing that you have these turning points and that you have to take a different course?
ND: I think it really was a journey. I went on a journey and it started with yoga and as soon as I realized that you know, this piece of mind that I found in yoga that could really help me and I love the title, I can see clearly now, really it’s perfect because it really helps you to see clearly and helps you to define the next steps and this is what happened to me. I was in a relationship with someone who I actually agreed to marry and this person, he was a lovely person but he didn’t love me for who I am. He loved me for the step wife he wanted me to turn into and he had suffered from serious childhood trauma and was full of problems just like all my friends and all my boyfriends at that time. So, another thing that really helped me take the next step in my journey was leave my fiancé and leave my friends, my so called friends, you know, actually it suck every bit of energy out of me behind and take care of myself. This was another big step, you know, just opening your eyes and see, okay, what I’m doing right now is not good and it’s not selfish to say goodbye to people in your life who aren’t healthy. It’s just the right thing to do. You just have to take that step if you realize that these people are not good for you, then you have to let them go.
NL: Yeah, I totally agree because and I can see the pattern of people who have some things themselves that kind of deflect from that because we all have mechanisms that we pick up along the way to help us not really go inwards and really face what’s going on inside of us a lot of the time, whether that would be helping other people, whether that would be work or alcohol or whatever that is. It’s easy for (ND overlaps) like that. So, let’s say that someone is watching the show right now, that’s like, okay, I can see the story, what is it that they can do to get out of where they are now to get out of their place?
ND: I always tell people to really take it one step at a time, and this is really important because often when we feel like we need to change something, we tend to want it all at once and then we start multi-weighted and then we keep everything for a couple of weeks and then we feel so overwhelmed. I don’t know, we jump right back to square one because we cannot handle things anymore. So, what I always say is take it one step at a time and I’ve actually put everything that I have learned on my 15-year journey and I’ve combined that with everything that I’ve left professionally because I’m a nutritionist, specialized nutritionist. I’m a (8:02) coach. I’m training on other medicine and homeopathy. So, I’ve put everything from my personal life and combined that with my professional knowledge and I have developed a step-by-step approach and this is why I’m trying to teach people taking one step at a time, begin with visualization for example. Picture the person you want to be, picture the life you want to live and visualize this life every single day and feel the feelings you want to feel as if they were happening now, because what happens then is you start to change your reality. And this is the very first step you have to take, you have to know where you want to go because otherwise you cannot put together your road map, so, that’s the very first step, visualization and you know, really feeling like now, what do you really want having in your life and then everything, everything else will start to develop naturally once you’ve made that first step.
NL: So step one is visualization which of course we know a lot about at mind movies because that’s what mind movie is, it really is a cheating tool when it comes to visualization. So is this a part of your system that you help people with?
ND: Yeah, yeah. The first step is visualization. The second step is actually internalization, which is actually the logical consequence. The third step is detoxification and I am not only talking about anything that everybody is doing right now, drinking green smoothies for example, that’s part of it, but I’m talking about detoxing your body which includes nutrition of course. I’m also talking about detoxing your home because there are a lot of things, a lot of products that people are using on a day-to-day basis and they are absolutely not aware of toxins that they’re getting into their system, which messes up your hormones and your feelings. So this is another important stop of getting back into basics, living as clean as possible. It’s also about detoxing your mind. So meditation, (10:28) and gratitude that’s another important pillar of my approach. Pillar number 5, and this is really important, embracing our setbacks because even where you want to go there will always be times where things don’t go as smoothly as you want them to go. Once you’ve realized that and just accept the fact that this is bound to happen, you know, you always, you’ve almost made it out of your, I don’t know, your difficult phase, because that’s just, the less fortunate episodes will always be in your life but that’s just, you take them to define your goal then it’s just another step to the right direction. Now, dealing with setbacks, that’s another pillar and the last pillar is self-love. Now taking really good care of yourself, not feeling guilty when you do so, taking time for yourself, that’s really important to get this holistic approach and you know heal on every level.
NL: Yeah. I definitely agree with all of those especially the self-love because I think, like you said, if any, if we’re moving towards any goal of moving forward in life at all, there’s always going to be challenges and set-backs. If we beat ourselves up over that, what we’re doing is just really surrounding that whole situation with negative energy. Whereas, it might take time to get to this point, but if we can look at it as a gift and look at the positive side of that, we completely change the meaning of that situation. We can completely choose and we’re in control of how long we allow it to affect us moving forward and basically what our responses to afterwards.
ND: Yeah, definitely. Some levels also, it’s a great tool to get this nasty little voice out of your head that is telling you’re not smart enough, you’re not beautiful enough, or you’re not, I don’t know whatever, not enough and self-love is the perfect tool to help you, you know, get that voice, I saw that video where you talked about this voice as well and I just love it. You put it all together and you packed it all, a complete package that you will win whatever you, you will always win, you will always come out as the winner and that’s the thing, you have to take it one step at a time, not overwhelming yourself but keep on going every little day, little effort and you will reach your destination.
NL: Yeah, absolutely. I totally agree. So, Nathalie, I know that you’ve been working with a lot of people and I love the fact that you have taken this journey of your life and being able to empower people to take control of theirs. So if people want to know more about you and the work that you do, where can we send them? Where can they find you?
ND: I’ve got a website which is called, simplylivebetter.net, so this is where people can find me. The six pillars I’ve talked about, I’ve put that into a program which I have called my ultimate life transformation and I call it like that because it’s my life ultimate transformation but whoever is going to read my program will also say, my ultimate life transformation. And this is what I want to do, I want to not provide people with what they call blueprint of life. I want to inspire them to go on their own life transformation. So this is what my program is called, my ultimate life transformation.
NL: Wonderful, wonderful. Well thanks again, Nathalie, for joining me, it’s been an absolute pleasure and thank your for sharing your story.
ND: Yeah, thanks for having me, Natalie. Bye.
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