Episode # 333 Bertrand Dory
Natalie: Hi, I’m Natalie Ledwell and this is the Inspiration Show. Today, my special guest is the amazing Mr. Bertrand Dory. Bertrand is coming to us all the way from Ireland. Is that right?
Bertrand: Yeah, it is right and it is sunny day here today and I’m really proud to say this.
N: (laughs) Very far and few in between aren’t they? Now, I detected a bit of a French accent though, and Bertrand is a good friend of mine. He has been on the show before but he has an incredible campaign that I wanted to create an awareness for, a go-go campaign for an amazing project that I think is going to get quite a bit of attraction. And that is you creating a new book and it’s all on the subject of guilt. So for those people that may be haven’t seen the previous show or know about you, can you just tell a little bit about your journey and your story, then we’ll get into this awesome project that you have now.
B: Yeah. So, my name is Bertrand Dory and you’re right, there is a French accent because I was born in France a few years ago, went to Ireland 14 years or 16 years ago. I’m a single dad and I am the author of conversation for your soul, which is now a best-seller, and also the creator of design (1:19). My passion is to really help people because 5 years ago, I had a big crash (1:26), a big project and everything collapsed. I was looking for ways to go over it and to create a life that is really inspiring, fulfilling and loving especially for my daughter. Being a single dad, she’s really the most important person in my life. So I started to study this and create my life and inspiring people – that’s my deepest passion. If I can find people making some good progress in their life, finding joy again then it’s everything that I want.
N: Wonderful. So, how old was your daughter when you started this journey and how old is she now?
B: She is 14 now. She is, some people say is not a good age but I found that it’s a fabulous age. She was 8, 9 at that time. So she went through everything you can imagine – me being divorced, a mom leaving the country, and also, me starting a new life not making money, not being happy and so on. It was a tough life for her and we went through this. Now, at 14, we just have this amazing relationship where we can have great conversation, happy conversations. We can have good times. It’s just amazing. It’s a bliss to be (2:51).
N: That’s awesome. Does she also read the books and learn the information that you teach?
B: Well, that’s a different thing. She uses information. She has a lot of wisdom and she (3:07). She knows what I’m doing but now for her to say that what I’m doing is good, there’s a big relief. As a teenager, they don’t like saying this but she has read the book and she said it was pretty good. So I’m guessing that she liked it. It’s really important because she’s teaching her own friends and she’s able to respond to life. At 14, there’s a lot of tension, a lot of social pressure from other children, from other girls, and so on, and she’s able to navigate this result, any big issue. Of course, there are days where she’s happy, she’s frustrated, she’s angry and so on, usually, she’s very happy and she will go on and call her friends and say, hmm, maybe you should look at this differently or maybe that’s just a point of view or maybe you change this. It’s just amazing when she does this.
N: So you obviously are rubbing off of her a bit, which is good. So tell me what compelled you to take on this new project and start talking about guilt?
B: Well, what compelled me is that, I interviewed you and we met. I met a lot of people (4:19), and I know that it is possible to create our life. I know it’s something everyone can do. But I find so many people that are getting stuck and they don’t know why it does not work for them. They are starting to judge themselves and they are starting to say, nothing will ever work for me and so on. I was there too and that’s why I was compelled because when I was there, nothing will work and I was frustrated, I was alone, I was fearful, petrified and I didn’t know what to do. I started to look really deeper, first, because I didn’t have a choice, I need money and I also need to go out of this mess for me and my daughter. Second, I was taking so much action. I was really stretching myself, doing everything I could - sharing, contributing, giving, creating new products, creating awareness and so on. But my success, which was a relationship and more money did not come. So, I had to look at my life and I had to really start to look at this differently. So I started this really unusual hypotheses, which, if you were to imagine to go back to my parents, plenty of money, a nice car, a nice suit, a suit that will cost 4, 5, 6,000 dollar and going to them and say, I am living like my dream. When I did this (closes his eyes), I felt my body completely getting tensed but really tensed. I couldn’t talk, I couldn’t move, I was just stuck in my own body. I started to look at this and I started to realize that I was feeling guilty because they didn’t have the life that they want and suddenly I would come here and put right in their face, hey, I have this great life and I had a thought in my head that I was a bad boy, because who am I to do something that was so different from them? The guilt started to emerge. And I started to (6:24) these people, I don’t have any guilt. It’s not real and so on. But that’s not true. The more I was talking to them, the more I was speaking and coaching my students I realized everybody had it, and when I brought awareness and I was like, oh yeah, I can see now why this can happen and the more that we get into this, the more there is awareness and the more these can people can then put everything in practice can then create a better life for themselves.
N: Exactly, because that’s the thing, a lot of us, I think one that I can relate to, I’m sure a lot of people who watch this show can, I feel guilty if I am creating income if I’m not working my butt for it. Like I think to make money, I have to work hard and unless I’m putting in the extra hours and working that hard, then I’m not going to be able to be abundantly wealthy. Well, that’s just crazy. So what are the main guilt that seems to come up for lots of people?
B: That’s one of them. We are not working hard and then we have the money or we have a good life, that’s one of them. Of course, there is the sexual guilt. When people have good relationship and then they have been told over and over that this was bad, that this was a sin and people are not expressing themselves. There is also the guilt of having a better life from their parents. So is the guilt of having pleasure when you are not here for your own children, like you’re rubbing something out of them. There is a guilt of money, everyone in our society. Any kind of guilt is a wrong one. Some people are starving so who am I to get this money? My parents still doesn’t have good lives who am I and so on, and so on. So that’s really a main guilt. Also, the guilt of being a woman and having a career. So being able to work and create an income, a lot of women are feeling guilty for this because they should have a child, they should be a mom, they should be doing things differently, they should be of service and suddenly they carry all these guilt and in some stage something gets triggered her whole life will collapse.
N: Yeah, if I’m not suffering those guilts myself, I know someone who has gone through that or have that discussion around that as well. So, tell me about the indigogo campaign that you are doing. What that’s all about?
B: Yeah. It’s a chip off my book and thank you very much for helping me with this one. It’s a new book called, sentenced for life: guilty of guilt. The thing is we create this own prison in our mind. Once we open this door, or not really open, once we start to be aware of this it’s like your cage disappears and we can really start to express ourselves. But as long as we have this cage around us, we cannot express. We cannot become. We cannot even dream anymore because even dreaming is something we feel guilty about and we can’t create our life. So, this book is about bringing awareness to people. I would share my own story and the guilt that I had where, it’s that thing that I never, ever, ever, ever thought that I was carrying this (9:40). It was so familiar. It was part of my life, all my life. I never felt it but it really was triggered and when it was triggered it just created a magical event one after the other where a lot of my relationship, my job, my income, my business, my relationship with my daughter and my relationship with my parents and all of these in two weeks. It was just like, wow, what just happened here? It was one gate. Remembering what happened in my past. I don’t even know, I was about two or three and this was in me and it was triggered on one event. One look at my daughter’s eyes and (10:24). So I really want to share this with people because once people get aware that they have this, once they know they have something like this that’s inside of them, in many of my talks, tears come in and really just this, ahh, it’s not only me. (10:45) to move again, that’s what I wanted to do. So I’m sharing this book, my stories, awareness, what guilt can do and looking at these in different ways because it’s so important for us to be able to look at this in different ways and I’m going to have very, very powerful ways techniques that are helping people to release (11:03)
N: Wonderful. So guys if you click on the banner to the side of this video, that would take you straight through to Bertrand’s indigogo page. So you can go through and make a donation because this is an incredible project and I’m sure nearly every single person that is watching this video right now can relate to one thing that we’ve said today. And if you can just get help on how to work through that and the solution to being able to release that for you, it’s going to be worth it. You have no idea the heights you are able to achieve in your life. So I really encourage you to go ahead and to make a donation there. Bertrand, is there anything else that we want to add before we go?
B: Yeah. People who would donate more than $25 will get a copy of the book, physical copy. There are several levels of donation of course. But you can become the hero of somebody’s life, that’s really what it is, you are the hero of your own life but you don’t know who’s going (12:06) and may be you’re going to avoid some people to make some stupid steps in their life or becoming better parents. For me, that’s really close to my heart. By giving a donation, you will get a lot of prices and perks back that it’s more for you to be this person that enabled this project and for me, that’s the most important and the most golden gift that we can give to anybody.
N: Absolutely, couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you, Bertrand for joining me. It’s been an absolute pleasure having you today.
B: Thank you, Natalie. Thank you.
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