To Quit Or To Keep Going? That is the question.
Well before we get into that, I first want to say that personal development is a lifetime journey. And throughout your life, you’ll continue to evolve and grow as a person and in turn, your values, dreams, and goals will also change along the way. So if there’s a goal or opportunity that you previously set for yourself that you aren’t sure about anymore, it’s important to take the time to evaluate and assess if this goal still aligns with who you are and if you want to keep pursuing it.
Now, if you’re like most people, you probably heard things like “never give up” or “keep going!” as a child when working towards a new achievement. Maybe your parents or teachers wanted to encourage you to have determination and motivation, but this may have left you with limiting beliefs surrounding goal setting, self-worth, or the fear of failure.
And now as an adult, you may feel reminded or even triggered by those childhood memories when you hear phrases like “you can do it!”, especially when working towards a challenging goal. And if you’re struggling with a specific goal that’s causing you stress or anxiety, you may find yourself at a crossroads grappling with wanting to quit or to keep going.
Determining the pros and cons of both options and making a confident decision can be difficult. Things like limiting beliefs and even the fear of being judged can get in the way of pivoting from previous goals to new goals that are more accurately aligned with your values.
To protect ourselves from future harm, we may naturally try to manage risk when it comes to determining our next move. And unfortunately, we may also end up going down a rabbit hole of “what-ifs” on what move is the best move and if allowing ourselves to let go of a goal is the right thing to do.
So how do you really know if throwing in the towel is a risk you’re willing to take? Or if deciding to keep going yields the biggest reward?
Well, for the sake of nurturing your mental health and overall well-being, I’d like you to think about the following questions that can help you determine if it’s time to either reevaluate your goals, choose to give something up, or commit to persevering. Once you’re able to answer these questions with confidence, it can help guide you toward a decision that will leave you feeling happy and relieved.
So here are some things you may need to ask yourself first:
1. Have you lost interest in your desire to reach your current goal?
2. Why did you end up setting this goal in the first place?
3. Are you constantly experiencing low-frequency emotions like hopelessness or stress because of the goal you are working towards?
4. Why are you considering giving up on this goal?
5. Would you feel a sense of relief if you no longer had this goal on your plate?
6. Do you find that the people in your corner are no longer seeing your current goal is feasible?
7. What would you gain by quitting?
After you consider these questions, it’s important to know that any choice you make, regardless of your answers, should be in alignment with your current core values. So as tough of a decision it may be to make, it’s more than likely going to be the best decision you make for yourself.
Okay, so perhaps you’ve decided to let go of a goal… what happens now?
At the end of the day, taking the time to reflect and reevaluate your goals is a sign of growth and will usually allow space for you to pursue other passions. Even if you decided to let go of a goal that no longer servers you, this in no way stops you from going after something more empowering. It can actually provide you with the motivation you just may need to go after an even better goal or opportunity.
So there are a few things you can do now to help you navigate new goals for yourself.
#1 - Remember that when life changes, it’s okay for goals to change too. So maybe this means setting smaller, more digestible goals that feel in alignment with your current values. Sometimes breaking things down into smaller pieces helps provide more clarity toward a larger goal.
#2 - Be mindful of what and how much you’re sharing when it comes to your goals and who you are sharing your goals with. Sometimes we can become hesitant to let go of goals when we’ve publicly announced our intentions to friends, family, and even on social media. This can impact our mental health and ability to see through to our intentions with a clear head. So it’s okay to keep to yourself sometimes as you’re working toward your goals in the future.
#3 - Learn to embrace and celebrate the wins that are personal to you instead of waiting on validation from outside sources. Living an authentic life is all about being true to yourself and what you value - not how you think others will value you. So don’t forget to celebrate your internal achievements first!
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Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.