Everyone, even the most successful and famous people in the world, experience obstacles and suffer setbacks. It’s a part of life! But what sets successful people apart is their ability to overcome rejection and bounce back after failure. So how do they do it? And what strategies can you use to become more positive and get you back on the road to success?
I’ve certainly had my own share of disappointments and blows in life, most recently my divorce. But I’ve learned to turn those setbacks into wins, and to not fear failure so much as to know that if one door closes, another door opens. So, I’ve decided to write a motivating blog to help you learn how to practice patience and to shift your mindset.
Here are 7 ways to bounce back after a setback:
1) Accept that it happened
As it’s been said, the only way out is through and to get through anything, you must first accept the truth. Don’t ignore it or pretend it didn’t happen, just know that failure is a natural part of life. Accepting it will help you overcome it and get you back on the right path. No one gets anywhere by neglecting that they’ve experienced hardship!
2) Take responsibility
Even if there were others involved, take responsibility for your actions. Own your part in it, don’t blame anyone else. Be accountable for your actions and what led to this failure or setback. We are all responsible for our choices, good or bad, no matter what anyone else does or what their part in it may have been. So own it!
3) Learn from your mistakes
As Henry Ford so wisely said, “The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” There is an upside to making mistakes: you probably won’t do the same thing again. This doesn’t mean you won’t make other missteps or fall down again, but hopefully, you won’t make the same mistake twice.
4) Don’t dwell
I’m not saying don’t feel anything about it. Of course, failure is disappointing, it can even be devastating at times. But don’t dwell on it. Take the appropriate amount of time to grieve, be mad, feel bad - and then let it go. Move on and make way for something better to come along.
5) Forgive yourself
This certainly isn’t easy if you’re not used to self-forgiveness, but it’s a necessity if you’re going to pick yourself up and move on. Beating oneself up is not productive and can be very damaging. If it doesn’t come naturally to forgive yourself, then practice and remember everything takes time.
6) Find gratitude
As you probably know, one of the fastest ways to healing is to look at what you have, not what you don’t have. This goes with failures and setbacks as well. Find a way to be grateful for what happened and what you’ve learned from it. Believe it or not, the most satisfying victory is usually the one that was the most difficult. So be grateful for the journey, no matter how treacherous. If you stick with it, hang on, there’s beauty to be had.
7) Start dreaming again
Don’t be afraid to dream big. There are so many success stories out there of people who fell, failed, and faltered - and then got right back up and did it all over again. Taking risks and dreaming big is the only way to have success, so get to it!
Everyone has their own way of dealing with setbacks, so I’d love to hear some of your thoughts. Please share them in the comments below.
And before you go, if you feel like something is standing in the way of your success but not sure what it is - there could be a reason why.
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Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.