Has anyone ever asked you about your love languages? Well, there happen to be five love languages that represent the different ways in which we express and receive love.
The 5 love languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
And as you may already realize, while we can relate to most of them, we’re all likely drawn to one love language more than the others. Getting in tune with your love language and that of a partner (or potential partner) provides you with even better communication in your relationships. So to make sure we are heading into the new year with lots and lots of L-O-V-E, I’m going to share with you a little more about the five languages of love to help you welcome even more love into your life!
Words of Affirmation
Similar to the kind of affirmations you would use on a vision board or in your Mind Movie, words of affirmation represent the verbal expression of love and affection. Statements like:
“I love you.”
“I really appreciate you when you do ____.”
“I find you so attractive and beautiful.”
“You did such a great job doing ____.”
“You look great! Is that a new outfit?”
“I’m the happiest when you make me laugh.”
These are the kind of verbal statements that yield positive reinforcement by highlighting what someone has done or who they are as a whole. No matter the type of relationship, words of affirmation are for those who welcome a deeper meaning to praise and compliments. Whether you like receiving or giving words of affirmation, you find appreciation in the kind of language that speaks from the heart.
The love language of quality time is all about time spent together. If this is your love language, you prefer a partner who can provide their undivided attention with things like eye contact, active listening, being present, and meaningful conversation. And conversely, you may feel let down or upset if plans that include quality time are postponed or if your partner seems distracted by other things while in your presence. So the deeper connection comes from simply sharing time together.
Acts of Service
For the acts of service love language, actions speak louder than words of affirmation. So if this is your top love language, you probably prefer to be shown through action that you are appreciated. For a romantic partner, this may look like anticipating their needs like making them a cup of coffee in the morning or taking out the trash without being asked. Or even something as simple as picking up their favorite snack while out shopping. For friends, this may look like helping someone move or offering to help with a big project. So as you can see, there are plenty of big and small ways to show up and show appreciation for someone that helps to fulfill the acts of service love language. Here are even more ideas of acts of service you may enjoy receiving or giving.
As self-explanatory as it may seem, if receiving gifts is your love language, it’s not necessarily the dollar amount or value of a gift received, but the value in the thought behind the gift. This love language is probably the most misunderstood, so understand that it’s the meaningful gifts that truly count for this one. Knowing that someone has put careful thought and emotional intention into their gift-giving is what really stands out for you. Perhaps you’ve mentioned feeling homesick and weren’t able to see family over the holidays. A meaningful gift may be receiving a certain something that reminds you of home, like a scented candle or food unique to your hometown. It’s often more about what the gift symbolizes rather than a random gift that isn’t meaningful to you.
If you prefer physical signs of affection in the form of touching, hugging, kissing, hand-holding, cuddling, or sex, the physical touch love language is for you. It’s the feeling of closeness and skin-to-skin contact that helps to release those feel-good hormones like snuggling on the couch or holding hands in public. So having your partner grab your hand or rub your shoulders may make you feel less tense and calm. And the same way you love physical affection, you may feel bothered when a partner doesn’t instantly seek to be close or touch you, especially in public or a group setting.
So now that you know more about the five love languages, I have one more gift of love to help you awaken the love life you’ve always craved. It’s my Love Abundance Toolkit that includes 50 empowering love affirmations to help fill your heart with limitless confidence, clarity, and self-love, along with a unique (and very eye-opening) quiz to uncover your perfect match! Get instant access now to break through to your deepest love yet!
Natalie Ledwell is a best selling author, speaker and successful entrepreneur. She's passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through her personal development programs and her online TV show, The Inspiration Show.